The Finch Formerly Known As Gold

9 November 2003

Such a percentile

Lenore Skenazy isn't advising "Lower your expectations," exactly. Or is she?

Perfectly fine-looking women pick geeky-looking guys all the time — and I wish my single friends would realize this! Anyone holding out for a hunk should understand that no matter whom you marry, the next 10 years will be a time of steady decline. So if you can just put up with a few years of subpar attractiveness, you can have everything — the kids, house, happy home life — that the cheerleader who snagged the football player has, without the disappointment of watching your guy go downhill. He's already downhill!

I would dearly love to endorse this viewpoint, except that (1) improving my appearance to "subpar" level is something that CFI Care deems "not medically necessary" and (2) I've never even seen the hill these guys putatively descend.

(Muchas gracias: Kimberly Swygert, who probably looks better than this.)

Posted at 1:11 PM to Table for One


Whatsa matta, you don't like green skin? Hey, here's a photo that at least shows my real skin tone (and preference for black t-shirts and tombstones)...

Me in the graveyard behind my house

Thanks for the link!

Posted by: Kimberly at 3:19 PM on 9 November 2003

Green is not your color, but that other one wasn't bad. Only problem is I am a leg man and most of the girls of blogdom don't have pictures that include their legs. How disappointing.

Posted by: anstranger at 3:38 PM on 9 November 2003

I don't ever want to get into a position where I start reading some woman's blog — or worse, stop reading some woman's blog — because of what she looks like.

There are indeed some authentic beauties behind the keyboard out there, but it does me no good (your mileage may vary) to focus on that aspect at the expense of everything else; at those times when I have, I have sent the Stupid-O-Meter into full-deflection mode.

Posted by: CGHill at 3:58 PM on 9 November 2003

In reference to the post, I have been searching for someone that would take an older man who wants to start a family and see most younger women running after guys that are covered with tattoos, have criminal records and are using drugs. In my opinion, most women just want someone to fertilize their eggs and go away, it seems, so they pick losers who will likely disappear once they find out the female is pregnant. Of course, I might be way off base, but such is just my observation. ;)

Posted by: Tiger at 8:13 PM on 9 November 2003

I've never even seen the hill these guys putatively descend.

Maybe it's out past Tulsa?

Posted by: McGehee at 8:28 PM on 9 November 2003

I've been out past Tulsa. Not a whole lot there except for stereotypical sitcom material.

Posted by: CGHill at 7:34 AM on 10 November 2003

CG - Good point. I occasionally post photos to keep my readers apprised of what I'm up to, but there's a reason I don't put a great headshot on the first page. Most of my readers wouldn't care, for one thing, and I'm not sure that I want a whole bunch of readers who would care. :)

As for Tiger's comment, it does seem (among my very limited sample) that women are attracted to men who are obviously incapable of keeping an emotional or legal commitment. They're attracted to a flashy, rich, or "bad boy" facade, and many of them are disappointed when the men (not surprisingly leave). Most women I know don't seem to want the guy to go away, but then they don't pick the type of guys who are likely to stick around, so maybe Tiger is right.

On a related note, I was talking with my mom one day about why I had always been attracted to guys with no money (ones who were employed, mind you, just not rich or money-conscious). My mom said that was a smart thing to do; rich men can afford to have another lover or leave you altogether, but once you're married, a poor man has to stay and fight. :) I think women who choose their men based on their wallets are just as misguided as women who choose men based on their looks.

Posted by: Kimberly at 8:00 AM on 10 November 2003