The Finch Formerly Known As Gold

10 December 2003

Maybe it's all in the framing

Once upon a time, I came up with this:

"Men seldom make passes at girls who wear glasses," said Dorothy Parker. I never believed it, myself; I mean, it wasn't that I actually made passes at girls who wore glasses — scarcely if ever did I make a pass at anyone irrespective of eyewear — but I knew of no instance where a pair of glasses actually made someone less attractive.

Donna was quick to back up Mrs. Parker. Personally, I'm not at all persuaded that Donna is as spinsterish as she claims; for one thing, she's too darn funny, and for another, she's too darn pretty.

Now comes the lovely April Joy, and she, too, buys into Parker's Law:

I think I can hide better behind glasses. Unless glasses are your thing it's [more] likely that you’d look at someone without glasses than with.

I don't believe her, either.

Posted at 8:25 PM to Table for One


Donna is one of the true babes of the 'sphere...glasses or no.

Posted by: David at 9:23 PM on 10 December 2003

I wear glasses, but I've only had weird creepy guys make passes at me so I'm probably in no position to really say. However, I remember reading an informal experiment where a man and a woman went to a bar, each with either glasses or no glasses and tallied how many people came to talk to them. More people talked to them without their glasses.

Posted by: sya at 11:19 PM on 10 December 2003

Oh c'mon, it's all about the eyes.

This is plainly obvious to anyone who has worn glasses for most of their life, I think. (Like me, for instance.) Most glasses-wearers are nearsighted, and if you've ever really looked closely, lenses to correct such make the wearer's eyes look smaller. Conversely, lenses to correct far-sightedness make the wearer's eyes look larger, but those aren't nearly as common.

So you wind up unconsciously if not consciously noticing small eyes, or worse googly eyes (way far-sighted). I can't help but think that has a lot to do with it; for all the rest of how someone looks and acts, the eyes have an awful strong draw, and if you can't see 'em all that well...

Posted by: Jennifer at 4:28 PM on 11 December 2003

Remind me to get a lens for my midriff. :)

Posted by: CGHill at 6:09 PM on 11 December 2003

This is hooey.
I find women who wear glasses scarcely less attractive.

I go for the bookish type, BTW, so glasses are kinda expected in that cohort.

Posted by: Fûz at 10:19 PM on 13 December 2003

Charles--- Thanks so much for the nice comments! No wonder I love the Internet; only in cyberspace can a myopic, amazon-freak find acceptance. :-)

Posted by: Donna at 9:07 PM on 15 December 2003

I've known any number of women where their eyewear does not detract even minutely from their appearance (forget any significant amount), provided, of course, that these same women don't choose butt-ugly glasses to wear.

IMO, it's not the mere presence of glasses that makes the difference; it's the style (or lack thereof) of the eyewear that makes/breaks them.

I'm quite sure that this sentiment is -not- limited to just the "fairer" sex, either.

Posted by: Steve at 2:31 PM on 17 December 2003