The Finch Formerly Known As Gold

27 December 2003

When I fall in love

Well, when Pejman falls in love, anyway:

When I eventually meet, am lovestruck by, woo and win the lovely, kind, gracious, brilliant, angelically compassionate and devilishly sexy PejmanWife, I'm not going to look at other women. This isn't nobility. It isn't a sign that I have suddenly evolved into an extraordinary gentleman. It simply reflects the fact that I wouldn't want to look at other women. They wouldn't interest me. They wouldn't excite me. You could try to entice me with visions of striptease artists of the first rank coming to my bachelor party and doing all the things the profession is famed and honored for, and my reaction would be "Meh. Give me a day of golf, some fine cigars, a few drinks, touch football, chess, and movies with my friends, and I'm a happy man. I'll save the sexy stuff for me and my future wife, thank you."

In fact, if my reaction were anything indicating strong interest in the striptease filled bachelor party, I'd get the feeling that I'm marrying the wrong woman. She'd have to be the only one who could have any kind of hold on my emotions. No one else could exist. No one.

I'm going to have to file this under "Wish I'd said that", I think.

Not that there's anyone meeting that description for me, of course.

Posted at 3:27 PM to Table for One


Bahhh, what nonsense. Now, it could reflect that I didn't get married until I was 27 and so understood the smorgsboard of sheer beauty existing in this world (or OU in the late spring. Don't Believe Me: drive through campus in late April/early May) but, just because you put all your money on one horse don't mean you can't watch the rest of them run.

Posted by: Chris at 5:52 PM on 27 December 2003

LOve and sexual attraction are not necessarily the same thing. In fact, much of our pop fiction is polluted by the notion that they are.

Posted by: McGehee at 8:59 AM on 28 December 2003

...much of our pop fiction is polluted...

Should have read:

much of our pop culture is polluted

Posted by: McGehee at 9:00 AM on 28 December 2003

They may not be identical, but wouldn't it be nice if they'd overlap once in a while?

Posted by: CGHill at 9:54 AM on 28 December 2003

I have to agree with the general sentiment: Pejman is holding out for something that doesn't exist. I hope he's not evaluating everyone he goes out with based on these criteria, because he's never going to find someone who's going to effect that behavior in him. At best, he'll spend several years rejecting potential mates based on this impossible standard, then finally reach a crisis in his mid-30s, and consequently fool himself into thinking he's found it in the next girl he meets.

Posted by: CT at 4:43 PM on 28 December 2003

Well, his mid-thirties aren't so far off, so he's got a fair amount of rejecting to do yet.

I still think he can pull this off — I tell you, the man is driven — but it's not going to be easy.

Posted by: CGHill at 5:49 PM on 28 December 2003

Good for Pejman. His real challenge will be to find someone who will feel the same way about him...too many people have a "throw-away" attitude towards relationships. I have been married 8 years (tomorrow) to someone who has inspired that kind of devotion in me, by displaying the same kind of devotion towards me. Begone, cynics! It could happen.

Posted by: Analog Mouse at 2:17 PM on 29 December 2003

I'm not going around changing people's ideas about love, but well, I think he's being a little too idealistic.

Posted by: sya at 9:29 PM on 30 December 2003

If you can't be idealistic about love, there's not much point in being idealistic about anything else.

(Yeah, like I'd know about that.)

Posted by: CGHill at 6:30 AM on 31 December 2003