The Finch Formerly Known As Gold

2 July 2005

Did I miss something?

Pammmela, who slings lattes for the Barista of Bloomfield Avenue, observes:

In the world of dating, women of a "certain age" are faced with less than stellar prospects. Every available female over the age of 40 knows the three types of men:
  • The newly divorced male, who will only date 25-year-olds.

  • The still married male who is looking for a little fun, and will only date 25-year-olds.

  • And the male who has never had a meaningful relationship of any kind, who would date anyone.

Not that there's a thing in the world wrong with being 25 years old, but inasmuch as my daughter is about to turn 27, a fact which injects a certain amount of creepiness into the dynamic as I perceive it (cf. Steely Dan, "Hey Nineteen"), I shy away from women that age, or would if any of them showed the slightest interest, which of course they don't.

Does this qualify me for a fourth type?

Posted at 8:36 AM to Table for One

Well, being another divorced male with daughter, my rule of thumb was that I wouldn't date anyone younger than halfway between our ages.

Not just because it would be strange to date someone much younger than that, but also because we wouldn't have sufficient in common to have good conversations.

Doesn't mean I don't drool from time to time, though ...

Posted by: wheels at 4:33 PM on 2 July 2005

Let's see. 51.7 + 26.8 = 78.5.

My cutoff point is therefore thirty-nine.


"Same 'Hmmm'." — Bill Cosby

Posted by: CGHill at 5:50 PM on 2 July 2005

Re your rhetorical question: Yeah. That would be called 'normal.'

Posted by: Alan Sullivan at 3:49 PM on 3 July 2005

Normal? You think? So, just asking, where do those of us females of a "certain age" (over-40) find you?

Because my experience mirrors Pammmela's...

Posted by: Kathy K at 8:19 PM on 3 July 2005