15 August 2006Too good for you?Jacqueline Passey is a "high-quality woman," and if you don't believe it, just ask her:
I know that sounds arrogant, but let’s consider the facts:
And she caught a fair amount of flak for saying these things: one ex-reader (I assume) sniffed, "Is there a more self righteous bitch anywhere else in the blogsphere?" (Answer: Scads of them.) For my part, I can't get too worked up about this. At the very least, she's upfront about what she has to offer, and it's up to you to decide whether she matches your particular priorities; rather a lot of folks hide their light under a bushel. (Ask me about my grain elevator.) She doesn't happen to hit mine especially well, as it happens, but that's hardly a reason to criticize someone. And while I tend to be wary of an elevated sense of self rather a lot of people have defined themselves as Good while doing their best to hide from the advance of Evil I suspect she's closer to the Ayn Rand side of the spectrum, where love and romance are transactions like any other, and hey, it's a tough market out there. Besides, I'm older than her target age group, and I suspect that the clash of dissimilar libidos would result in either heartbreak or heart attack, neither of which is on my list of Desired Outcomes. Still, I am a firm believer in holding out for what you want, and I can't fault her for doing the same. Bottom line: I think I'd like her; I have no reason to think we ought to be dating. She adds:
I'm sorry if I've offended you, but I'm also really sick of getting e-mailed several times a week by delusionally hopeful men who read my blog and think because I am their dream girl that I'll therefore want them too. Too often they act crushed when I reject them, which I feel bad about, but if they had stopped to consider whether they had as much to offer me as I have to offer them then they might have had more realistic expectations.
Now that's gonna leave a mark. Disclosures:
I should also point out that this post multiplied Jacqueline's traffic ninefold, so I can reasonably expect to get three, maybe four extra visits out of this response. And if what you wanted here was a point-by-point response to her assertions, try this. I get zero emails a week from delusionally hopeful women. Same here, but I happen to know it's because they're so intimidated by my insufferably high quality. Posted by: McGehee at 11:05 AM on 15 August 2006I get emails from hopefully delusional women, usually trying to get my ebay/paypal/citibank info. Posted by: Dwayne "the canoe guy" at 12:52 PM on 15 August 2006Really, how special does one have to be, to be one of the "hot chicks" at the sci-fi convention? (Answer: Totally average.) I know, because I was a totally average "hot chick at the convention," once upon a time. I, however, despite not having Passey's "education," realized that being Queen of the Fanboys doesn't make you Jessica Biel. Posted by: Veronica at 7:08 PM on 15 August 2006Back when I was attending cons, any female who showed up at all got to be the Hot Chick by default. All I can say is that the only criteria I'd sort of fit is education. Otherwise, many of those points she listed is really objective (even IQ which I think is totally bunk anyway). Although I really have to wonder--if she really is sick of fanboy emails, she should have never put all that out there in the first place. Posted by: sya at 10:01 PM on 15 August 2006Ah, but is she loving and thoughtful? Sounds like my ex who was also "perfect" in every way. Just ask her... Posted by: Winston at 6:30 AM on 16 August 2006Yeahhhh. I haven't visited her blog in over a year, but it's nice to know that somewhere, someplace, in the deepest recesses of a "self-employed" gambler's reality-deprived mind, some things never change! Posted by: agent bedhead at 8:47 AM on 17 August 2006Yeah, she thinks she's so hot and she is STILL single. No quality MAN would ever put up with her shit. Posted by: KLJ at 9:21 PM on 24 August 2006 |