I’ll admit when I read the article I thought along the same lines as M. Poretto. She’s not single at 49 because she’s too smart, she’s alone at 49 because she’s a rude boor who apparently delights in making others feel inferior. Are men perhaps cut more slack in this area? Maybe. But that doesn’t change the fact that most people have no interest in being made to feel lesser.
I think what McGehee says holds a considerable amount of truth. I’ve known people of both sexes who seemed to want nothing more out of life than a good, ongoing argument. It’s a definite turn-off, at least to people like me.
(And I am convinced that there are those of us out there – who may not even be Kates, at least most of the time – for which fate is not going to provide a Petruchio. I’m working on, as the pop psychologists say, “being okay with that.”)
Petruccio and Kate’ story is a perfect model of male chauvinistic fantasy, Chaz.
Mr. Poretto’s reaction is a perfect illustration to what Ms. Mulvey described as men having “fragile male ego”, who expect a woman to always play a second fiddle.
I can add a dash of primitive psychology – or, rather, modest lifelong observation, whichever way you look at it – that these men usually adopt the opinion of their “second fiddle”, as long as she pretends it’s his. Sometimes it borders on standup-comedy ridiculous, the way they parrot their seemingly submissive wives. They are completely oblivious of it!
Returning to the article itself…well, she does have a mannish face (or maybe it’s a Scottish blood? that chin is something indeed scary), but her figure is fit and slim, and she does seem to be curious of many subjects.
I think the article would have benefited if cut in half -she tends to rephrase the same thought time and again – but she redeemed herself with one short paragraph:
“Sometimes, I wonder if the confident signals I’m giving out are at odds with what is going on inside. I long to be loved but I’m too scared to be vulnerable – I use my sharp mind to protect my all-too-soft heart against yet further rejection”.
That rings true.
[full disclosure: I, too, was once been labeled “opinionated” as a reason to part – but I thought then and I think now it was for the best. ]