Already settled

I don’t know whether to chortle in my Schadenfreude or cry in my beer [warning: autostart video]:

[A] study conducted by Siemens Festival Nights found that as many as 73 percent of people surveyed say they are “making do” in their relationship because their true love got away.

“The ‘making do’ part is sad, in the sense of, we’re not really tapped into, ‘Why are we in this, what are we looking for long term, and what do I really desire?'” said relationship expert Kavita Patel.

Patel said people settle for many reasons from fear of being alone to wanting security and comfort with another person — anyone.

“Well, it’s better to be with somebody than nobody — I think that comes up for people,” Patel said.

What’s worse, 17 percent of respondents said they met their soul mates when it was too late — after they were already paired off or married.

That any-port-in-a-storm business holds true, I think, only if there’s an actual storm; turning a certain age [nsfw audio], for instance, is not necessarily sufficiently scary.

And besides, this is buried at the bottom of the story:

The study, of 2,000 people in London, also found that 75 percent of adults say their definition of love changes as they get older.

Well, no flipping wonder you’re dissatisfied.

(Via Fark.)


  1. fillyjonk »

    4 October 2013 · 1:32 pm

    I really doubt the “It’s better to be with somebody, anybody than alone” -the number of domestic-abuse cases I see reported in local news seems to be proof of that.

  2. Tatyana »

    4 October 2013 · 5:50 pm

    Erica – we notice the same thing.
    It’s a cowardly thought, lave psychology, to endure person that makes you unhappy out of fear to make it on your own. Foe me, most definitely, it is better to be single than fight frustration and unhappiness for decades.

    They speak as if they still live in Victorian times, when nobody got divorced and people were stuck in horrible marriages till death they parted.

  3. fillyjonk »

    5 October 2013 · 7:22 am

    And that women were condemned to working as governesses (or even less-reputable careers) if they “failed” to marry.

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