The Finch Formerly Known As Gold

19 December 2006

Whose space is it anyway?

Reasonable questions from Mary Stella:

So, what's the etiquette when a virtual stranger wants to be added to your Friends list? What if, like me, you don't want to spend time every day updating this list?

I have solved this problem by being Fairly Unpopular. Not an ideal solution, but it works.

And moreover:

Why doesn't MySpace have different lists for Acquaintances or People I Don't Really Know but Who are Surely Very Nice?

Maybe they're working on this for version 3. (One can only hope.)

Mary's page is here; it is much less drab than, say, mine.

Posted at 2:19 PM to Blogorrhea


1) Don't have a friends list. What stupid things those are.

2) Pretend you never got the message from the stranger asking to be on your list. After all, the internet isn't perfect, and emails and such have been known to never arrive at their destination.

3) Grow a spine and tell the stranger "No, I don't know you (def. of 'friend' is 'someone you know and like') and it's creepy of you to ask."

Really, do I have to think for everyone?

Posted by: Andrea Harris at 10:10 PM on 19 December 2006

So, what's the etiquette when a virtual stranger wants to be added to your Friends list?

Exactly the same as if a real stranger wants to be added to your Friends list.

Posted by: triticale at 9:36 PM on 20 December 2006