The alphas of the world, of course, don’t worry about dating: partners come to them. For the rest of us, there’s this:
No one really wants to know how they’re perceived by strangers. Even if you say you do, you don’t. But if you’re a one-and-done online dater, perpetually stuck in the awkward phase, a candid look at how people judge you might actually help.
BetaDater, developed by an engineer and an economist, is an online program that sets you up on short dates, then sends you honest, anonymous feedback afterward.
I question that term “anonymous”: you’re set up with three people, and while you won’t know specifically which one sent what piece of feedback — you’re supposed to get three from each — it’s not likely to be an NSA-grade secret, either.
The BD report ostensibly:
- compares your self-perception to that of your dates’,
- reveals what areas you may be overestimating or even underestimating the quality of your first impression, and
- gives you the data you need to ask “do people see me as I see myself?”
Clearly I am doomed.
(Via this Will Truman tweet.)