Better writers than yours truly seem to struggle with some of the same procedural questions that I do. For example, SK Waller ponders:
I find it really difficult to remember how not to/to not split my infinitives. Is it “can never”, or “never can”? I’ve read the rule over and over, but I can never/never can remember it.
My own rule, which comes with absolutely no official grammatical sanction whatsoever, is to default to not splitting — unless not splitting makes for a clumsy or uneuphonious or otherwise undesirable result.
The sample everyone trots out is the voiceover at the beginning of Star Trek, The Original Series. I submit that “To go boldly where no man has gone before” is a step downward from the original. On the other hand, “Boldly to go…” puts the adverb up front, but who wants an adverb up front? This one I’d leave alone purely for metrical purposes: the rest of the phrase doesn’t scan, but the pair of iambs at the beginning is downright compelling.
I often hate the way I’ve worded something, especially after I’ve hit the Publish button, but I am seldom inclined to scold someone else: if your participles don’t dangle and your pronouns balance out most of the time, you’re probably way ahead of the game, at least as it’s played in our ostensibly post-literate culture. I suppose I’ll be drummed out of the Grammar Police for so saying, this being the sort of thing up with which they will not put.