"What it is about women that you don't understand, do understand and appreciate, and do understand and don't appreciate. This is not limited at all to romantic involvements, although you can go there if you wish. Also, how a society run by women would look and act. You can't crap out in two graphs, either."
Those who know me might sniff, "Yeah, like he can manage two whole paragraphs on the subject at all." Sniffage aside, however, it's a legitimate query, and one I need to answer, not so much for the sake of the question (or the questioner), but to find some sense amid all the emotional nonsense with which I've surrounded these issues over the years.
At the core of my understanding of women is the most obvious of statements: they are people. Bipedal humanoids of the sort one sees every day. Which is another way of saying that while there are characteristics which are most specific to women, there are others which appear more-or-less equally in both genders (and in nonstandard gender variations, but that's another topic entirely). So I understand women, at least to the extent that they exhibit the basic needs food, shelter, some reasonably-solid semblance of identity that are common to us all. Beyond that, I am totally lost.
Which is not quite true. There are times, not frequently enough perhaps, when I have some sort of actual insight into a woman's thoughts. (If these were really common, there would be little point in mentioning them.) I tend to attribute this phenomenon to a vestigial form of feminine intuition; if one buys the premise that human embryos default to female unless something happens very early in gestation to produce a male, it should surprise no one that this characteristic could be present, albeit with reduced function, in men. And "intuition" is a nebulous concept in itself. What we think of as "intuition", I believe, is mostly an enhanced ability to interpret nonverbal language (facial expressions, body positionings, voice inflections, and the like, which, to a small extent anyway, can actually be learned; it's not entirely a function of gender at all.
This nonverbal understanding I have, of course, has its limitations. As a solitary soul, I seldom get much opportunity to work with it. And it has a blind spot the size of, well, me; if she's thinking about me, favorably or otherwise, I haven't a clue one way or another. I need hardly point out that this contributes to making that solitary state more permanent. But on issues that don't affect me personally, I think I do a passable job of walking a mile in her moccasins, though I draw the line at Manolo Blahniks with four-inch heels.
Women are often portrayed (especially by men or by female rivals) as being calculating and devious, and the portrayers go out of the way to suggest that this is a bad thing. I'm not so sure. Without getting into that arcane left-brain/right-brain stuff, it seems at least plausible to me that women are certainly capable of working out the complex mathematics of human re