Better than nothing?

You make the call:

Girl A—“I’m so happy to be with my new boyfriend.”

Girl B—“That’s great, I’m so happy for you. How do you know this one is different?”

Girl A—“Well, he says hi to my parents and my ex never did, and he doesn’t even deal drugs anymore.”

Girl B—“He sounds great.”

Two possibilities, says Julie Zucker:

1) Some women don’t feel that they are worthy enough to strive for the best guy so they settle for someone subpar, or 2) our standards have just dropped altogether and our new definition of a “great guy” only consists of someone who is capable of saying hi to the family and doesn’t deal drugs.

I have to wonder, though, just what sort of douchebag Girl A had been dating before she met up with Mr. Wonderful here.

Aside: Firefox’s spellchecker thinks “douchebag” ought to be two words, or hyphenated. What a great spellchecker.


  1. Kay Dennison »

    5 April 2010 · 6:48 pm

    I think you have asked the only question that needed to be asked. I have always been choosy and even then I’ve dated my share of idiots.

  2. fillyjonk »

    6 April 2010 · 7:05 am

    And I hate to say it, but Girl A is probably pitying one of her “single” friends who doesn’t have a “man.” Some women have too much internalized the bad old idea that they don’t exist without someone to date.

    “used to deal drugs” would be pretty much a dealbreaker for me, unless the “used to” was 20 years in the past and had clearly been atoned for and cleaned up since. And even then, I’d be sort of twitchy about it.

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