Delusions of hawtness

Paragon of studliness that he undoubtedly is, the Instant Man had no trouble at all pointing to this possibly-dubious set of assertions:

Middle-aged men are being chased so much by single women that they are becoming deluded about their sex appeal.

A drought of mid-40s single men, compared with single women of the same age, means they are fiercely pursued, inflating their opinion of their attractiveness.

KPMG demographer Bernard Salt, author of The Big Tilt: What Happens When Boomers Bust and Xers and Ys Inherit the Earth, says the imbalance has created a monster he dubs the “hotness delusion syndrome”.

At fifty-seven, I’m a bit too old for this phenomenon, and I’m assuming the demographics were different when I was in my middle forties; certainly nothing like that ever happened to me back then. Moreover, I think I can safely say that I have never overestimated my own sex appeal, and I’m pretty sure the readership can back me up on that.

This being a piece from an Australian newspaper, I have to wonder: is this something that only happens down under? KPMG, of course, operates worldwide, but I don’t get the impression that Salt is coming up with this stuff at the behest of KPMG. Then again, Salt once proclaimed, presumably tongue-in-cheek, that the Australian regions with the best economic performance were those in which motion pictures starring Sigrid Thornton were made.

For reference, Sigrid Thornton is now 52, and looks something like this:

Sigrid Thornton in 2009

Probably too late to lure her to Detroit, though.


  1. fillyjonk »

    1 June 2011 · 9:35 am

    The thing is though – and maybe this is why I’m still single – is if you’re looking for an actual relationship, I tend to think “hotness” and the like should matter less in comparison of personality and ability to converse and all that. Otherwise, you might as well get a life-sized cutout of Bratt Pitt or George Clooney or whoever and stick him in the empty chair across the breakfast table from you.

    I’d rather hang around with an average (or less) looking guy who can make me laugh and can have a meaningful conversation with me, than with some guy who’s nice to look at but a lunkhead – or worse, an arrogant jerk.

  2. CGHill »

    1 June 2011 · 10:23 am

    I wonder how many women happen upon cute lunkheads and then plot the delunkification thereof, only to discover that it’s a lot harder to loosen up then they thought.

  3. Tatyana »

    1 June 2011 · 10:31 am

    By 45 if a woman haven’t figured out no man over 25 can be delunkified, she has wasted about 30 years of her life education

  4. Tatyana »

    1 June 2011 · 10:34 am

    That creature on the photo – she does look like somebody who would “fiercely pursue” a man – and get into few bar brawls on the way, too.

  5. fillyjonk »

    1 June 2011 · 11:03 am

    Sadly, there are still plenty women – even ones older than I am – who think they can find the “perfect” man and then change everything undesirable about him. (I never got that – the whole “He’s *perfect* for me…” followed by a laundry list of how she’s going to get him to work out more, dress better, learn to cook…)

  6. Dick Stanley »

    1 June 2011 · 12:03 pm

    Why do I always hear of these trends too late?

  7. McGehee »

    1 June 2011 · 1:57 pm

    Sigrid Thornton… <sigh>

    Of course, I’m remembering her from a time when she was about half the age I am now.

  8. Luther »

    1 June 2011 · 9:01 pm

    I’m sorry, but if I were being pursued by the present Sigrid… I’d run faster. Though admittedly, that is a terrible photograph.

  9. CGHill »

    1 June 2011 · 9:04 pm

    She does seem a bit prematurely orange.

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