A whole new class of victims

There are apparently people who sit alone in the dark of night, muttering to themselves: “God damn it, I want to be a victim too!” Because, you know, sympathy. And federal programs that have dollars attached.

There can be no other explanation for this:

According to Bella DePaulo and Rachel Buddeberg, the singles activists and authors who wrote a Truthout.org piece titled “Do You, Married Person, Take These Unearned Privileges, for Better or for Better?” discrimination against single people is a problem so huge that it’s actually “jarring” that our culture doesn’t talk about it the way it talks about racism and sexism.

The piece defines “singlism” as “the stereotyping, stigmatizing and discrimination against people who are not married” and “marital privilege” as “the unearned advantages that benefit those who are married,” an “emotional privilege” where “other people express happiness for people who marry but pity for those who stay single.”

“Someone is happier than I am, and it can’t possibly be my fault.”

And apparently there are Jim and Sheryl Crow(e) laws thwarting their happiness:

One example: Under the Family and Medical Leave Act, married workers can take time off to care for their spouse, but single people can’t take time off to care for a person “just as important to them, such as a sibling or close friend.” Note that they did not just describe this as “unfair,” but specifically as “discrimination.”

I surmise that there is a world-wide shortage of big-girl and/or big-boy pants, as no one — no one in the spotlight, anyway — seems to be able to put them on anymore.

Lileks observes:

[E]veryone and every state and every condition needs to be celebrated, or it is not validated; if it is not validated, it is marginalized. If it is marginalized, it is oppressed. If it is oppressed, it is virtuous. Then again, if it’s celebrated, it is virtuous as well. So either way you’re covered.

I think we can just about retire the word “marginalized”: with everyone and his half-sister’s llama crowding into the margins in search of that sweet, sweet victimhood, those of us who stay the hell off the edge are slowly becoming official nonpersons. Obviously it’s discrimination.


  1. McGehee »

    5 February 2015 · 7:23 am

    The evil-overlord-who-oppresses-everybody-equally model is looking better and better.

  2. fillyjonk »

    5 February 2015 · 7:24 am

    The flip side of this is the old saying, variously attributed to Plato or Socrates (but which neither probably actually said): “Be kind, for everyone is carrying a heavy burden.” So rather than a person flaunting his or her victimhood, they realize that other people may be facing some crazy tough stuff in THEIR lives. Of course, that denies the specialness of the complainant, so….

    (I dunno. I still gripe when a repair guy acts as though I’m a housewife with nothing to do but stay home between 8 am and 4 pm on Wednesday and wait for him to show up.)

  3. Lynn »

    5 February 2015 · 9:25 am

    There are all kinds of things that bug me and sometimes I feel like it’s unfair that other people can say, “you can’t say this to me (or about me) because I’m a member of this special group,” and get attention for it but if I tried to start something like that no one would pay any attention. People wouldn’t even so much as laugh at me; they would just completely ignore me. That’s the main kind of discrimination I have to suffer: I am ignored and I’m sure I’m not the only one. I say we start a movement for ignored people. Hey world! Stop ignoring us!

  4. Roy »

    5 February 2015 · 10:30 am

    “…stay home between 8 am and 4 pm…”
    I’m with you there, fillyjonk, and I’m not a housewife either.
    But what really makes me white-coat-rubber-room crazy is when you make all the arrangements, a day off work or whatever, you’re there all day waiting and…

    No show and no call.

  5. fillyjonk »

    5 February 2015 · 12:52 pm

    Yup, been there, done that, found another company to do the work for me.

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