Too weird for soap opera

Some people probably should stay the hell away from social media, and I suspect this is one of them:

Yahoo Answers screenshot: Is it a bad idea to send a Facebook friend request to someone whose name circulated in embarrassing rumors about me?

Tedious exposition follows:

I used to work in a corporate office. During my 7 years there, one of my co-workers kept repeating everything I said about my taste in women and who at the office I think is pretty. Apparently since I am socially awkward, he treated me like a 4-year-old who said something adorable, as opposed to keeping it confidential, i.e. locker room talk. Eventually, it was implied by everyone that I was “in love” with the office manager, when in reality, I only said she was pretty and nothing more. So my co-worker obviously fabricated what I said. I felt so violated, and It really hurt me how not only betrayed my trust, but made me look like a desperate virgin who lives with mommy. Well, 4 years ago, I was laid off. Despite my dismay for my co-worker, we’ve been friends on Facebook since before I was fired. I want to send a friend request to the office manager for the purpose of greasing the wheels in case I need a future job reference. She was fired 2 years before me, so there’s no hard feelings. But since we have many mutual friends, I don’t think it’s a good idea to send her a request, because then the rumors will continue. I know I shouldn’t care what they think, especially since I don’t work there anymore. But I don’t like the idea of ex-co-workers possibly snickering behind my back if they see I’m friends on Facebook with the office manager. Perhaps if she and I remained NOT friends on Facebook, then those rumors about me being in love with her will stop. Suggestions?

Truth be told, nothing makes someone look more like a “desperate virgin who lives with mommy” than a sob story like this. I will be really surprised if this bozo doesn’t already have a Tumblr.


  1. fillyjonk »

    6 May 2016 · 2:09 pm

    Speaking as a woman, I would be seriously creeped out if I were the woman in this situation.

    So I think the answer to the guy’s original question is, “Yes.”

    Of course, he could always try LinkedIn.

  2. McGehee »

    6 May 2016 · 2:55 pm

    It took him how long to realize his “friend” at the office was sabotaging his social standing at work? And he’s still friends with the guy?

  3. fillyjonk »

    6 May 2016 · 4:30 pm

    Facebook “friend,” which I take as being different from actual friend.

  4. CGHill »

    6 May 2016 · 5:34 pm

    In popular parlance, it probably is, though the majority of my Facebook contacts are people I had known in Real Life™ beforehand. (And I worry sometimes about running afoul of Dunbar’s number.)

  5. McGehee »

    6 May 2016 · 10:09 pm

    If I were still on Facebook and a “friend” were pulling that schist with me, he’d be was-never-born to me in short order.

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