Though I suspect a lot of us realize as adults that some of the things our parents did have marked us for life. I love my parents but I know my tendency to panic about money and “scarcity” is related to how they thought.
Money. Where is the happy medium? I tend towards over-frugality (I come by it honestly; I have a lot of Scottish genes). But that’s better than the other way around.
I loved the moment in A Christmas Carole (starring Patrick Stewart), when Scrooge asked pathetically, “How much for bread with my soup?” It illustrated beautifully that a skinflint deprives himself as well as others.
My goal is to stay just shy of such self-denial, but not by much. And I make it a strict rule to always tip at least 20%, to re-train my inner cheapskate.
Mrs. McG and I never miss an episode of “AFV,” but the videos where parents perpetrate a malicious prank on a child (think “toilet paper birthday cake” for example) are among our least favorite — along with the ones where a misbehavior is effectively rewarded by being submitted as a video (it doesn’t help that those latter videos have tended to win the big money).