This Valleywag piece describes the OkCupid user base as “the Web’s most normal pool of singles,” a dubious claim to the extent that said pool includes me. (Then again, as just one among a million or so, I figure I’m not doing much damage.) I’ll be the second to tell you, though, that the system has its drawbacks. Here’s the first:
Married Guy was looking for a little adventure with or without his wife, who had approved the whole thing. He signed up at OkCupid, and got a teaser email with photos and opening profile quotes of a few available women in his area. He recognized one as Single Girl, a professional colleague of his wife. Out of curiosity, he clicked Single Girl’s profile.
What he didn’t realize was OkCupid notifies its members as to which other members have checked out their profiles. Single Girl, unbeknownst to Married Guy, found his profile in her inbox and realized omigod he’s cheating on his wife what do I say to her? She had specified “no married men” in her preferences, so she presumed he had listed himself as single. He, on the other hand, presumed she was into married guys, since OkCupid sent him her profile. Cue mutual embarrassment.
I’ve explained how this system is supposed to work once before.
Left unsaid in this whole semi-sordid saga is whether Mrs Married Guy also has a profile on the site.
I mention in passing that those folks who look me up are either around my age or very much younger: a lot of fifties, a lot of twenties, and not much in between. I have no idea what to make of this. (Is this pattern at all representative of the user base? And if so, can it truly be called the “most normal”?) Twentysomethings had no use for me when I was their age, fercryingoutloud. And should they be seeking sugar daddies, you’d think they’d be looking for somebody with, you know, money.