Inquiring minds want to know

Melessa has promised us an exposition of several phenomena, including this one:

… why I couldn’t get a date to save my life when I was 23, thin, cute, and single; and hence my confusion at being flirted with by 27-year-old volunteer bartenders at work and some random stranger here at the hotel …

The Honeys pointed this out way back in 1963: “The one you can’t have is the one that you want the most.” (Honey Marilyn Rovell eventually married the record producer, a fellow named Brian Wilson.)

The implication, though, is that she’s no longer cute. I know better.


  1. fillyjonk »

    5 March 2009 · 8:12 am

    I wonder if the phenomenon Melissa observed is what gave rise to the stupid and infuriating (to me at least) comment that happily-coupled people used to throw my way:

    “When you stop looking, that’s just when you’ll find someone.”

    Memo to the universe: I’ve been pretty much not-looking for close to 10 years now.

  2. McGehee »

    5 March 2009 · 1:29 pm

    FJ, by that logic, my joining a singles newsletter group (via which I met my wife) was an act of “not looking.”

    FWIW, when I wrote my intro for that group, I didn’t do the “marketing” stuff that I saw in everybody else’s intros. Maybe that constitutes “not looking” by the standards of those who did try to “market” themselves (and for all I know are still looking).

  3. Melessa »

    7 March 2009 · 3:49 pm

    I thought I had commented a few days ago to say thanks for the link, you made my day!

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