Does it seem to you that there’s an awful lot of sexual abuse going on these days?
When I was in medical school, we were assured most of these accusations were not true, merely psychological projections (and indeed, some were, and some were also induced false memories, and some conveniently remembered stuff to get money).
But in the late 1960s we were also told by psychiatrists teaching us that all mental illness was due to sexual frustration (Freud’s idea) so that girls who said “no” but were forced into sex was okay, because she really wanted it or needed to lose her “inhibitions.” But what was worse was that back then, some people were pushing the idea that it might be a good thing if a child was initiated into sex by a “loving” adult.
I saw 3 or 4 cases of sexual abuse each month when I was in private practice, or heard about it from my adult women patients (because the majority of my patients were women, but also because I evaluated most of the abuse of young girls, being the only lady doc in town).
The abuse was usually by a family member or a friend of the family … and often they coped but used alcohol, drugs and were promiscuous…
I’m starting to think that “inhibitions” are actually good for you, that all else being equal. the ability to not act on an impulse has some survival value. If there’s any vowel-ridden acronym more annoying than YOLO (you only live once), it’s FOMO (fear of missing out).