It seldom comes naturally, even if you have celebrity credentials:
At 18, after graduating from high school and moving out of her parent’s house, Rebecca Black resolved to start pursuing her dream of a music career in earnest. But as soon as she began to take lessons and, as she puts it, “figure out what music I really loved and what I wanted to say,” the years of abuse came flooding back. “When I would walk into a studio,” she recalls, “all of the sudden I felt like I couldn’t speak.” It had been five years since “Friday’s” release, and Black thought she had made peace with the demons of her tween years. In reality, she shares, “all of those problems and all of those issues that you would think, or at least I thought, would just kind of dissolve or fade away or not be real, I had to deal with them.”
The path to empowerment, the 21-year-old reveals, has not been an easy one. When she considers her state of mind following the video’s release as well as what advice she would share with a young person facing cyberbullying, she realizes that what she needed most was someone to remind her, “that it was okay to be upset. I see so many people saying, ‘you got to be strong, stay strong, stay strong’,” she shares, “but you can’t get strong until you actually build that strength. And you can’t build a false sense of strength.”
Well, you can, but it won’t do you the slightest bit of good.